I just wanna talk about LOVE & BREAK-UPS. I know I have already emphasized on this but when I see lots of relationships are breaking around me I feel so much hurt. Divorces are immensely increasing… people part their ways from their loved ones for even absurd reasons. I get astonished and think why this is so hard for today’s youth to be in a relationship for a longer time. Today living or being with one person or choosing your life partner and growing old with them is like an unbelievable parable. Youth call it as myth or legend. Some even ask how you managed with the same person for the whole life. People don’t believe in relationships, people don’t trust each other, lost the transparency; people don’t want to be in a relationship nor wanna get committed.
I wonder why relationships are not lasting in this generation. People are keener in breaking a relation than building it up. I think people have forgotten how to love or forgotten what LOVE is?
You fall for a person that’s not a love. That’s the attraction towards your opposite sex. You feel everything blossom around you when you are with that girl/boy again that’s not love. You don’t see anything in this world because you are blinded in that magnetism pull towards her/him. LOVE starts when you start living with the person and accepts them as what they are. Don’t look for the perfections or your desires in another person. You just have to accept, respect and understand them.
People tend to spend a lot of time when they are at the beginning stage of a relationship and gradually move to a routine of not taking time for the same LOVE in future. But spending time is not only meant at the initial stages. You have to take more time when your relationship gets older. Sit alone with them, talk for hours and share your emotions and how you feel. Talk out all the disparity.
If you choose to be loved and love a person then you have to get prepared for small sacrifices, compromises. What LOVE we have in us when we can’t make small changes for her/him. We don’t wanna invest anything to make our relationship work. There was the time when our older generation invests their time and everything to save the marriage or make the relationship work. That’s what LOVE is all about. Today the new generations including me showcase a self-seeking love. We are self-lovers with selfish motives. We don’t wanna give-up for our loved one even though we see them struggling hard. We don’t bother when our love is weeping, we don’t even care to take an initiative to patch up. We just don’t care. What we care is all about us. We want to attain everything in an easy way. We are losers who say that I quit in this relation or I can’t take it anymore. We don’t let our love grow. Today LOVE comes with conditions and terms and still people call it “LOVE”. Love was and always defined as unconditional but today LOVE is having a different meaning or lost its sacristy and purity.
We are always looking for enjoyment, thrills, excitement in life. We want someone to be with us when we are travelling when are partying or watch movies. Today people say of course we spend time together. And I ask what time you spend together if you can’t make it memorable or don’t make memories by holding a tab or phone in your hand and spend the whole days and time by recharging your internet and what’s app. Just throw it away for a while, or switch it off and just look at her/him.. treasure the moments and make it unforgettable. Because you may not know whether you will get a day more in your life as life is unpredictable. I even know couples who sleep in the same bed and busy with their phones and text messages. Do you call this as togetherness? We don’t see the beauty of making days, time and moments special because we don’t value it. We depend on technology to express our feeling and to talk. It seems like there’s nothing to talk about as we have already replaced our presence with text messages and video calls. We always need someone who drives us crazy or makes us excited and soon it will fade away when all the enthusiasm comes to dump and finally we call it as “we quit”. We don’t leave space for love. And I don’t understand what we are gonna achieve without LOVE?
A relationship works with maturity, falling in love, again and again, sense of belonging, emotional connections. To happen all this we need to take out special time for them and make sure and it works by investing our everything. I would rather choose to spend the whole day with one person than opting to spend each hour with hundreds of people. We call our-self social and believe in meeting people and making new relations than getting to know about them. And finally, nothing works out because we are in search of perfections which is not gonna happen and the result is disappointments. The outcome is we start to believe all this as a fairy tale and conclude we are not meant for relationships. We don’t want to be committed, settle down, have kids and take up the responsibilities. This seems to be scary now.
Today it’s not even called as love making. It’s SEX and LOVE. Both come in a different package. Sex doesn’t come with love and vice-versa. Today’s generation fails to realize that sex comes easily but not loyalty and fidelity. Today you do it not because you love that person but you want to feel good. What an awful notion had entered into this world? Sex outside marriage is not a peccadillo or offence anymore. It’s said I am having an open relationship, friends with benefits, no strings attached, one night stands…
People forgot to love deeply and madly. We became more sensitive and sensible. We became more intolerant. We made our-self non-approachable,. We think it’s not practical to adjust. We believe in not losing our-self for our love. We believe in liberty. We believe in our individuality and selfishness than giving up or making small changes for our love.
This generation along with me is frightened. They fear to love, to commit, to be in a relation, to fall in love, to get hurt, to face the reality and scared to get our hearts broken. We can’t handle it because we think we are the practical generation and reality is that we are the owners of a very weak mental stability. We run away from our problems. We can’t face it. We don’t accept challenges. We fail soon; cry and think about ending our lives. We are incapable of everything.
Your love can only be successful when you practically apply the love rather knowing or reading books, blogs and articles. Don’t keep it in your brain. Apply or invest it in your relationships.